Comments on: My love-hate relationship with Facebook http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/ but not necessarily in that order Fri, 04 May 2012 12:49:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: knittymama http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7194 knittymama Mon, 23 Feb 2009 22:46:07 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7194 What a great post! I've been feeling the same way and have tried to keep my Facebook time down to once a week, maybe less. I'm amazed by who has crawled out of the woodwork since then. Some people I'm glad to get in touch with, others I wonder why they're friending me. One I'm not even sure who he is, just that we went to HS together. And I'm amazed at how when someone I haven't seen in 15 years does "friend" me there is no note, no "hi how are you" just that alert in my inbox. Which is fine. Often I just feel that I'm spying on old friends, and with my current friends it's just another entertaining way to keep yapping about stuff. Like diapers. :-) What a great post! I’ve been feeling the same way and have tried to keep my Facebook time down to once a week, maybe less.

I’m amazed by who has crawled out of the woodwork since then. Some people I’m glad to get in touch with, others I wonder why they’re friending me. One I’m not even sure who he is, just that we went to HS together. And I’m amazed at how when someone I haven’t seen in 15 years does “friend” me there is no note, no “hi how are you” just that alert in my inbox. Which is fine. Often I just feel that I’m spying on old friends, and with my current friends it’s just another entertaining way to keep yapping about stuff. Like diapers. :-)

]]> By: Frank http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7093 Frank Tue, 17 Feb 2009 00:27:56 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7093 I think Facebook is a good way to catch up with old friends, but it's no substitute for blogspot, panoramio, flickr, or any other site that lets you share things. I tried out myspace, but hated it. Now, I'm dreading all of the junk that will show up on FB too. I think Facebook is a good way to catch up with old friends, but it’s no substitute for blogspot, panoramio, flickr, or any other site that lets you share things. I tried out myspace, but hated it. Now, I’m dreading all of the junk that will show up on FB too.

]]> By: JD http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7047 JD Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:31:33 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7047 My sentiments exactly, and better written than I could do! Facebook--like blogs, smartphones, etc.--has its pros and cons. The other Sunday, my pastor used FB and things like text- and instant-messaging as examples of "disruptive technologies." Interesting. In principle I embrace it, but not to the extent that I'm abandoning the things that are important to me (e.g. actual knitting time and letter-writing). I still have my FB account, but recently ended my relationship with Friendster (arguably, the one that started it all)--which felt really good. It's kinda creepy to have all your stuff "out there"; you think it's private but employers and the like always have a way of finding out--something I make sure to warn my younger college student brothers about. And I'm not even gonna try and look up what Twitter is. My sentiments exactly, and better written than I could do! Facebook–like blogs, smartphones, etc.–has its pros and cons. The other Sunday, my pastor used FB and things like text- and instant-messaging as examples of “disruptive technologies.” Interesting.

In principle I embrace it, but not to the extent that I’m abandoning the things that are important to me (e.g. actual knitting time and letter-writing). I still have my FB account, but recently ended my relationship with Friendster (arguably, the one that started it all)–which felt really good. It’s kinda creepy to have all your stuff “out there”; you think it’s private but employers and the like always have a way of finding out–something I make sure to warn my younger college student brothers about.

And I’m not even gonna try and look up what Twitter is.

]]> By: Marsha http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7041 Marsha Wed, 11 Feb 2009 15:13:20 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7041 @Chris: So far I have successfully resisted the siren call of Ravelry! I have an account there, but I use it only to find info on patterns, yarn, etc. . @Deborah: Some friends of mine set up MySpace pages several years ago, so I created an account to see them. But the <em>look</em> of MySpace pages just drove me nuts. So much clutter! So many blinking things! It made my eyes bleed. (Well, not quite...) So I just don't go there. :) . @Paula: I did not know you wrote an article about that! Is there a link to it somewhere? I'd love to see it. (And I, too, am glad we met via blogs! I prefer blogs to Facebook and Twitter and the like because I think they permit more depth of interaction.) . @Imperatrix: I did read your post, and a lot of what you wrote really resonated with me. It was weird, because this post was already in the works when I read yours. Maybe writing posts about dissatisfaction with aspects of Facebook is the latest Facebook meme. Hmmmm... . @Lisa: Nearly everyone on my Facebook friends list has done the "25 things" meme. It was interesting to learn some things about some friends, but there were a few cases of TMI (rest assured--not from you! heh) that made me feel a little skeevy just from reading them. And the "friends" who aren't truly friends (as I define them) but people I knew two decades ago? It felt weird to read such personal, out-of-context things about them. If they were meeting face to face, people wouldn't blurt out most of the things they posted on their "25 things" lists, right? That's what I find so fascinating about these Facebook interactions--how they deviate from accepted norms of face-to-face (or even e-mail) interactions. @Chris: So far I have successfully resisted the siren call of Ravelry! I have an account there, but I use it only to find info on patterns, yarn, etc.
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@Deborah: Some friends of mine set up MySpace pages several years ago, so I created an account to see them. But the look of MySpace pages just drove me nuts. So much clutter! So many blinking things! It made my eyes bleed. (Well, not quite…) So I just don’t go there. :)
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@Paula: I did not know you wrote an article about that! Is there a link to it somewhere? I’d love to see it. (And I, too, am glad we met via blogs! I prefer blogs to Facebook and Twitter and the like because I think they permit more depth of interaction.)
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@Imperatrix: I did read your post, and a lot of what you wrote really resonated with me. It was weird, because this post was already in the works when I read yours. Maybe writing posts about dissatisfaction with aspects of Facebook is the latest Facebook meme. Hmmmm…
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@Lisa: Nearly everyone on my Facebook friends list has done the “25 things” meme. It was interesting to learn some things about some friends, but there were a few cases of TMI (rest assured–not from you! heh) that made me feel a little skeevy just from reading them. And the “friends” who aren’t truly friends (as I define them) but people I knew two decades ago? It felt weird to read such personal, out-of-context things about them. If they were meeting face to face, people wouldn’t blurt out most of the things they posted on their “25 things” lists, right? That’s what I find so fascinating about these Facebook interactions–how they deviate from accepted norms of face-to-face (or even e-mail) interactions.

]]> By: lisa_albers http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7033 lisa_albers Wed, 11 Feb 2009 06:22:56 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7033 An equally good phenomenon to study would be the propensity to bash Facebook. So many jumped on the 25 Things smackdown, I'm now more interested in just why it bothers them so much. I was tagged by one person, a friend who happens to be an excellent writer (with a short story collection published a few years ago), and her 25 Things was so well written, I couldn't help but try to step up to the plate. While I'm sure I couldn't do hers justice, I did go about it smartly, opting to block my clients and "friends" I don't know all that well from receiving it at all. I tagged only people who might be interested. Everyone else? Well, if they want to be my FB friend, then they're going to see my Notes. If they don't want to read 'em, don't click on 'em. Which is not to say that I don't applaud your slow-Facebooking. I recently pledged to slow-blog, and I'm yearning for better balance besides .... An equally good phenomenon to study would be the propensity to bash Facebook. So many jumped on the 25 Things smackdown, I’m now more interested in just why it bothers them so much. I was tagged by one person, a friend who happens to be an excellent writer (with a short story collection published a few years ago), and her 25 Things was so well written, I couldn’t help but try to step up to the plate. While I’m sure I couldn’t do hers justice, I did go about it smartly, opting to block my clients and “friends” I don’t know all that well from receiving it at all. I tagged only people who might be interested. Everyone else? Well, if they want to be my FB friend, then they’re going to see my Notes. If they don’t want to read ‘em, don’t click on ‘em.

Which is not to say that I don’t applaud your slow-Facebooking. I recently pledged to slow-blog, and I’m yearning for better balance besides ….

]]> By: Imperatrix http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7030 Imperatrix Wed, 11 Feb 2009 02:58:34 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7030 I'm still trying to find a good balance with Facebook. However, for all the chaff (and youread my blog post about FB, didn't you?) I have been able to get back in touch with 3 really good friends from my past. So that makes me happy. But interestingly, the people I would most like to renew friendships with from high school are not on FB. ;-) I’m still trying to find a good balance with Facebook. However, for all the chaff (and youread my blog post about FB, didn’t you?) I have been able to get back in touch with 3 really good friends from my past. So that makes me happy.

But interestingly, the people I would most like to renew friendships with from high school are not on FB. ;-)

]]> By: paula http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7026 paula Tue, 10 Feb 2009 20:26:30 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7026 Hey, did you read my article in Information Technology and Libraries a couple years ago? That's the main reason I signed up, for research. I forget to check it and Ravelry. I am still avoiding a meme that my grad school roommate tagged me in. I am glad to be your virtual friend via the blog. Hey, did you read my article in Information Technology and Libraries a couple years ago? That’s the main reason I signed up, for research. I forget to check it and Ravelry. I am still avoiding a meme that my grad school roommate tagged me in. I am glad to be your virtual friend via the blog.

]]> By: Deborah http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7023 Deborah Tue, 10 Feb 2009 15:39:04 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7023 I myself still haven't signed up for Facebook. Even though I know several people on it, and one in particular that posts all her traveling pictures there and that's the only place to see them, I just haven't mustered up the energy to join. Maybe one day. I've avoided MySpace like the plague too. My favorite thing about your post is your last Footnote talking about all the Footnotes in the post. :-) I myself still haven’t signed up for Facebook. Even though I know several people on it, and one in particular that posts all her traveling pictures there and that’s the only place to see them, I just haven’t mustered up the energy to join. Maybe one day. I’ve avoided MySpace like the plague too. My favorite thing about your post is your last Footnote talking about all the Footnotes in the post. :-)

]]> By: Chris http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7022 Chris Tue, 10 Feb 2009 14:13:54 +0000 http://first-things-first.net/2009/02/09/my-love-hate-relationship-with-facebook/#comment-7022 I'm still resisting Facebook! I feel that way about Ravelry sometimes (oppressive need to keep up), so I tend to not do much on it. Hee hee - my MS thesis (2000) was about how people in an online technical forum established their credibility through interactions with people they couldn't see. I’m still resisting Facebook! I feel that way about Ravelry sometimes (oppressive need to keep up), so I tend to not do much on it.

Hee hee – my MS thesis (2000) was about how people in an online technical forum established their credibility through interactions with people they couldn’t see.

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